How to punish a masochist?

[Timberwolf]

"Slowly remove priveledges, like deny her access to BDSMLibrary"

Okay when I first read that I had a chuckle, but assuming she enjoys this place, its actually not a bad idea at all.

There's also the realm of the "boring task" as punishment. Sit in the corner for "time out". Make her write lines (somewhere away from fun things like Ipods, TV, and the internet). Its boring. Its not fun. That's the point, as two examples.

If all else fails you could always force her to listen to Paris Hilton's CD on "repeat" until she apologizes. But even masochists have limits to what they can endure.

" 'I know music,' she reassured the Sunday Times children's section. 'I hear it every single day.' While this obviously gives Hilton a massive advantage over those who have never heard any music and thus believe it to be a variety of cheese, there remains the nagging suspicion that this might not represent sufficient qualification for a career as a singer, in much the same way as knowing what a child is does not fully equip you for a career as a consultant paediatrician... Listening to her sing Rod Stewart's Do Ya Think I'm Sexy, you are gripped by the fear that civilisation as we know it is doomed and that brimstone is going to start raining from the sky any minute."

-Ripped from a review of her "efforts".

[Qmoq]

There's also the realm of the "boring task" as punishment. Sit in the corner for "time out". Make her write lines (somewhere away from fun things like Ipods, TV, and the internet). Its boring. Its not fun. That's the point, as two examples.

I think that's the best suggestion. A punishment shouldn't be pleasant, and "ignorning" her is (in my opinion) either abuse or just asking for attention-seeking trouble!

We'll save Paris Hilton for when we catch Osama.

Q

[master 327-834-200]

" 'I know music,' she reassured the Sunday Times children's section. 'I hear it every single day.' While this obviously gives Hilton a massive advantage over those who have never heard any music and thus believe it to be a variety of cheese, there remains the nagging suspicion that this might not represent sufficient qualification for a career as a singer, in much the same way as knowing what a child is does not fully equip you for a career as a consultant paediatrician... Listening to her sing Rod Stewart's Do Ya Think I'm Sexy, you are gripped by the fear that civilisation as we know it is doomed and that brimstone is going to start raining from the sky any minute."

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[angelfreak]

Sorry all for not responding to the thread and your posts. For some reason, I haven't been able to log onto the forums since around 1pm eastern yesterday. I keep getting that evil white page of death 'page cannot be found'. So I'm having Dashi post my reponse.

As a good subbie understanding my login problem, I found an email from her with all your responses this morning. I didnt even ask her to do it. Thanks to everyone for your carefully thought out suggestions. All of them have merit, and most will be applied during our time together. With that being said, I'd like to clarify something at the risk of rotten tomatoes being tossed my way . I had a few reasons for making this post:

1. This really is a dilema in some people's minds. I've seen the frustration from Dom's dealing with masochists and their 'punishments' in other forums, journals, etc. I searched our forums and didnt find any substantial content on this subject.

2. I am curious as to how others 'handle' their submissives, and I wanted to build my arsenal abit considering the 24/7 lifestyle that i'm jumping into.

3. "ducking and dodging rotten tomatoes" The forums have been 'dry' for the past couple of days, and I wanted to present a fresh topic that would give people something to reply to.

4. The whole thread was entertaining because it resulted in a playful/humorous "mindfuck" for Dashi. I told her to keep up with it, and it established an anticipation/dread that I might utilize the suggestions. It was kinda like hearing the jury of her peers imposing her 'sentence', lol.

Now one thing has resulted from this that I didnt anticipate. I talked to Dashi on the phone last night, and she is distressed that everyone's perception of her is that she's an unruly submissive who frequently tops from the bottom and is disrepectful of me and her role as a submissive. THIS COULDNT BE FURTHER FROM THE TRUTH . Dashi is very serious about being a submissive, and she rarely deserves punishment. Like several have mentioned, on the rare occasion that it happens, my disappointment in her is worse than 1000 lashes. While I haven't gotten a single tear from her physical discipline, she's cried a river before, knowing that she's disappointed me.

As far as her posting on this thread, she did so because I told her to do it. She hadn't even considered it, at least openly. I told her to post a 'playful' response so that:

1. It would fuel the fire for responses to the thread... *too slow on the dodge and I catch a rotten tomato square in the face*, lol

2. That through this thread, I hope that you have gained insight to the sometimes playful dynamic of mine and dashi's relationship. I've been slightly concerned that through our other posts, this part of our relationship is missing. You all are our kink family afterall... hopefully you understand us a little better now

Finally, thank you all sooo much for your responses. Lots of good material to work with in the future, either in general fun while we play, or on the rare occasion that Dashi's imp comes out to play and she needs to be put back in her place, lol.

Special thanks to:

Oz. Muhahahaha... your static position methods will certainly be implemented into our routines while we adjust to living together. Dashi cringed when she heard my sadistic laughter at your response.

Cariad and Tojo. For reaffirming my belief that pyscological/emotional is very affective, but improper usage can be more damaging and abusive than 10k lashes.

Timberwolf. For the variety of methods that you volunteered...now to get a copy of Paris Hilton without actually spending money on it... lol.

[Tojo]

Thanks for the update guys- we don't get enough of this sort of thing, which is after all the 'meat in the D/s sandwich'

I've actually been toying with a punishment for lisa this week, but it seems just talking to her is enough keep her on track.

The problem is she's in limbo for a few weeks until school starts. She can't even really start a fulltime job. She's bored, has no money & really no life.

She's been playing an online game for hours at a time & been a little lazy some days.

I said I will punish her if all else fails, sort of thing- but didn't tell her how.
I also said I'd hate to do it & that she means a lot to me.

I found by just 'sitting down' & talking to her, being honest about my expectations & fears drew her attention to her behaviour.

This is so great this stuff- I get a ridiculous amount of pleasure just chatting with her, getting her pics & putting her desktop on the PC when my wife's asleep....

Each D/s relationship is different & unique, it's great to see when someone has the courage to talk about theirs.


Tojo