How to punish a masochist?

[Nikita]

My two cents, from a switchy gal who has a sub who likes to top from the bottom... sometimes...

Physical punishment for him is a reward. Putting him on cd or making him wank until his dick falls off is a reward.

One thing that worked for sure, was making him stand silently in the corner for 20 min. He couldn't do 10. So, he whined and wanted an alternative punishment.

Of course, I clucked and was the understanding mistress, but, I gave the bitch a choice, 30 min. in the corner or write a 500 word essay on any topic I wanted.

*gg*

[Ruby]

Of course, I clucked and was the understanding mistress, but, I gave the bitch a choice, 30 min. in the corner or write a 500 word essay on any topic I wanted.

*gg*

The essay, one of my favorite punishments. So is having someone sit still and be quiet.

Taking away privileges, for a set period of time, also works well.

A punishment isn't fun nor exciting, and it yet, it shouldn't be abusive either.

For example, having a sub who's afraid of the dark, sit alone in the dark, can be considered a cruel mind fuck. It can trigger responses that neither dom or sub wanted.

Withholding food or water, keeping someone from and/or going to the bathroom -- all of those can be considered over the line punishments.

If any dom or domme feels they must actually punish their submissive, I would ask that they not do so in anger and consider what it is they hope to achieve.

Ruby

[mina]

The essay, one of my favorite punishments. So is having someone sit still and be quiet.

Taking away privileges, for a set period of time, also works well.

Withholding food or water, keeping someone from and/or going to the bathroom -- all of those can be considered over the line punishments.

I agree, the essay and taking away privileges are both good punishments. But actually I think withholding (or even just limiting how much) food/water works quite well too, especially if the sub loooves eating. Being told what time you can eat again makes you even more hungry, as you look forward to it and it seems so far away. And if your dom/me eats in front of you… that’s just cruel lol.