The little things...

[Silke]

Just thought about something today that made me want to bump this thread back to the top.

I was chatting with Master and realized how blessed I am with such an attentive soul who cares about me. It suddenly hit me - this is a rare species, lol.

One of my best r/l friends is stuck in a relationship with someone she actually loves to bits, but who isn't really attentive towards her. In his mind, only the big things count. He told me once that he loves to see her happy but hardly ever has the time or money to really show her. For him, it's all about making big presents, dedicating whole days or even a holiday to her, buying a huge bunch of flowers.....when all she wants is maybe a little note saying he loves her pinned to the fridge when she gets up and he's already gone; for him to be really *with* her when they are together, in contrast to him juggling his computer, the tv and a phone call while trying to listen when she tells him how her day went; or maybe pick up a flower from the neighbour's garden instead of a huge buquet.

I actually told him what she said to me - and he wiped it off with a rough gesture and told me those little things weren't worth the effort. As much as I like him, but i think he couldn't be further from the truth. The little things make ALL the difference...

...when I asked him whether he knew how to make an avatar of my picture and he surprised me with not only doing it for me, but adding his name for me.
...when he shares his feelings with my so openly.
...when I was all giggly and hot to do a task today and he created one on the fly.
...when I read the task and realized he knows me so damn well.
...when he said he's proud to announce I call him Master.

The little things I try to do for him -
...getting over my awkward feelings and entertaining him with a story to help him unwind.
...taming my curiosity and respecting his privacy.
...considering his needs and wishes and putting them before my own.
...keeping my in-built smartass in check...sometimes, lol. (although that would probably run under 'saving my own ass'...
...creating an atmosphere where he can relax instead of playing the drama queen, lol

Long live the little things!

[angelfreak]

Well, since I'm now living with my Master, my answer to this thread has changed a little bit.

Things I do to please...

- Try and make sure his water glass is always full when we eat

- Take the initiative in rubbing his feet when he gets home from work (not quite as good as I should be at this one)

- Making sure he always has clean clothes to wear (not really a little thing)

- Making sure the house is fairly tidy when he gets home

- Trying to make sure I light his cigarette before mine

Things he does that please me...

- When he lights my cigarette for me

- Handing me the ashtray when it's out of my reach

- Letting me cuddle with him on the couch when we watch tv

- Letting me sleep in when I wasn't feeling good the night before or we got to sleep really, REALLY late


Um...I'm sure there are a ton more things, but I'm still not fully awake yet. *grins*