House Rules?

[Guest 91108]

I like the be attentive rule adds it.

[joely]

never having been in a real life D/s relationship, many things struck me throughout this thread. i especially liked this from Sir Russell:

Be Proud

You are finally in your nature, your true self! If you have agreed to this life style you have come to terms with your spirit. Now you can truly be adored for that inner beauty. You are precious and I as your Master will be honoured by your submission. It will be an indication of our superior characteristics.

In all things, exhibit dignity. metered movements, not fast or jerky, not slow and sloppy but metered. Eyes opened and looking lovingly at your Master or the world we live in, but chin high. You are submissive and you are swollen with pride, glow from the reality it suggests.

In all things, be the best you can be, and be proud. This is not a suggestion, this is a command.

however, some items from Sir Russell and fantazmaster seem almost stereotypically BDSM - almost what most vanilla folks would describe all this "kinky stuff" as....wenches kneeling nude, being shared, wearing slutty clothes at work... does real life not preclude or get in the way of some of the more intricate rules? or - as a relationship progresses - do these rules become more ingrained as a way of life?

obviously a virgin sub. thanks.

joely

[Ozme52]

never having been in a real life D/s relationship, many things struck me throughout this thread. i especially liked this from Sir Russell:



however, some items from Sir Russell and fantazmaster seem almost stereotypically BDSM - almost what most vanilla folks would describe all this "kinky stuff" as....wenches kneeling nude, being shared, wearing slutty clothes at work... does real life not preclude or get in the way of some of the more intricate rules? or - as a relationship progresses - do these rules become more ingrained as a way of life?

obviously a virgin sub. thanks.

joely

As you grow, you'll learn to love it. Got a prized possession? Do you hide it away or put it on display. That's kind of how dom/mes feel about their subs. As a sub, you come to realize being put on display is a sign of their pride in you which in turn makes you yearn for it.

[precious]

As you grow, you'll learn to love it. Got a prized possession? Do you hide it away or put it on display. That's kind of how dom/mes feel about their subs. As a sub, you come to realize being put on display is a sign of their pride in you which in turn makes you yearn for it.

Well said Oz!!!!! i had started a response but couldn't get it expressed as eloquently or accurately so i deleted it... thanks for stating it in such a way!

[joely]

As you grow, you'll learn to love it. Got a prized possession? Do you hide it away or put it on display. That's kind of how dom/mes feel about their subs. As a sub, you come to realize being put on display is a sign of their pride in you which in turn makes you yearn for it.

Ozme - i agree with the idea of "being on display" and somehow, at even this new stage in the game, there's a little yearning going on... i guess i was referring to the rest of the rules.

fantazmaster did say that the rules were sort of a starting point. and i suppose that if the rules are clear - then there are no excuses for not knowing or not understanding.

yearning about! joely

[fantazmaster]

Yes a starting point joely as over the years the Demands list has served as a sort of an example of rules and demands , a database of items to draw upon and work from.Frankly I can not envision a "one list fits all" or universal set of rules that would accomodate all such relationships.As Sir_Russel has shown us with his sharing of his list of rules it takes some thought,negotiation and sensitivity to individual circumstances in order to render a workeable set of rules.

Ozme - i agree with the idea of "being on display" and somehow, at even this new stage in the game, there's a little yearning going on... i guess i was referring to the rest of the rules.

fantazmaster did say that the rules were sort of a starting point. and i suppose that if the rules are clear - then there are no excuses for not knowing or not understanding.

yearning about! joely

[joely]

Sir Russell and fantazmaster - Thanks for your replies. It does seem to me that a D/s relationship is definitely one that takes much thought, trust and communication. Certainly the same in any relationship but moreso here.

I appreciate that you took the time to answer.

joely

[goalt]

Mistress has these always-set rules:
Unless commanded specifically otherwise, I am to be naked.
I am to do what She commands.
Mistress is to be referred to as Mistress unless She commands otherwise.

Other rules vary from day to day