Why Do Men Lie?

[ProjectEuropa]

[QUOTE=AndrewBlack]The counter question that I would ask is, do you, or anyone else, think that reading gender specific magazines or 'scientific' papers that pupport gender differences actually modifies peoples behaviour?QUOTE]

Of course the paper is a generalisation. It doesn't purport to be anything else. It is theorising on biological imperatives. Its rather like saying men are taller than women. We all know not all men are taller than all women but we know what is meant by it. However to say there is no biological imperative behind human behaviour is a nonsense. We are all biological creatures. It's a talking point, thats all. But yes, experience and socialisation are a very important part of the equation.

[Gallardo]

What I want to know is the author's gender. There was an article in GQ not too long ago but not too recent either on the exact topic. It was written by a man. Besides the sprinkles of humor, his theory suggest that men lie because men can and it makes them in control (or at least the feel of it). I think that is true to a certain point.

I don't know how or if biology has anything to do with this. It is beyond my knowledge. But I do believe gender specific media does influence behavior. I still chuckle when I remember the article in Cosmopolitan about donkey punch? I forget exactly but it's funny what they tell women sometimes.

In the end, this reminds me of Chaucer? who wrote all women want is power over men. An argument can be made that the man is "submissive" because the power is given by the submissive in the first place. Nevertheless, I am sure it is still a fun game as Andrew points out. I wonder if it would be more fun with a slave instead of a submissive...

[ProjectEuropa]

What I want to know is the author's gender. There was an article in GQ not too long ago but not too recent either on the exact topic. It was written by a man. Besides the sprinkles of humor, his theory suggest that men lie because men can and it makes them in control (or at least the feel of it). I think that is true to a certain point.

The original article was in Psychology Magazine I believe but a lot of tabloids and periodicals took the issue up because of the obvious way they could simplify and be provocative with it.

If I remember it right, the paper was from a respected university. It was written by a man but there was a list of research assistants, many who were women.

I've been trying to find the original article but I have just moved studios and I'm struggling to find anything at the moment. If I come across it I will post it.

[midnightsky]

To me, any attempts to explain what gender is and how/why 'we" act the way we do seems rather shallow.

Gender is what YOU think you are, not what someone else tells you (which of course means there are more then 2 genders...). Or, to put it another way, gender is just an illusion (Butler is a good author if you are interested in the concept of gender).

Humyns (and yes that is how i spell it) act the way they do because their reality (as an individual) has been coerced and shaped by society- especially through language- to beleive certain concepts. M. Foucault blames knoweldge (the attempt to understand which leads to stereotypes) for our need to assocaite ourselves within a specific group, and to otherize what we dont understand.

I dont really tend to think of the submissive as being completely submissive- (in this case, she) it requires an overt act or decision to engage in a submissive activity, jsut as submitting to someone is to a degree a control over the dom(me)...Sure, the dom(me) may be controlling what/how a scene progresses, but ultimetly the sub is the one that agrees to the scene, feels the pain/pleasure (not counting what they do to or for the dom(me)), and can stop the scene with a word. They have more power then they think!