Hmmm, I have watched this thread for quite some time. Please allow me to step in a moment to try and soothe some ruffled feathers, here.

Hunter, I agree with what you said, and how you said it.

Nibbles, you are correct in that D. should not have brought you in to this 'discussion', but I do not believe he was trying to hurt/ insult you. And, he did publicly apologize.

D., I know you speak for yourself, but I also wish to speak about what I feel. I grew up in Boston, the child of European immigrants, and very proper. I understand your winded-ness, and pension for bringing up 'dead people'. It is, to me, a breath of fresh air! I've spent my entire life subjugating that part of myself, in order to fit into this American society.

This entire topic was started to elicit our thoughts, and, I believe, a debate usually follows posted thoughts. I've enjoyed reading the ideas going back and forth between everyone. But that's all it was, a DEBATE over concepts and ideas. I truly believe no intentional harm was done towards anyone. And, apologies were presented when toes were stepped on.

We must all, in here, agree to disagree. After all, isn't that WHY we are all present in this Forum? Because we have thoughts and ideas (about sex, mostly) that don't fit into the 'norm'?

OK, off my soapbox. Carry on, all.........