Slave stables

[Ruby]

Though I will hazard to guess that there are subs out there who will accept that their dom is poly, but do not want to participate in a poly relationship themselves. This would require a bit more work, and as long as you can give all of your submissives the love that you want to give them, and as long as this is done equally then I do not see any problem.

Though to do this you will need to reafirm that you love them just as much as any other, and with proper scheduling things can work out. I have seen it, though not with live in couples, but it is damm near close.

Not sure if I should start a new thread for this question:

What about the doms who are poly online, but lead each and every one of their subs to believe that she is the only one?

Do we say he's keeping a stable? Being unfaithful if the others don't know?

Nightstriker/Moderator - if these questions belong elsewhere please move to a new thread. Thanks, Ruby

[BDSM_Tourguide]

Not sure if I should start a new thread for this question:

What about the doms who are poly online, but lead each and every one of their subs to believe that she is the only one?

Do we say he's keeping a stable? Being unfaithful if the others don't know?

Nightstriker/Moderator - if these questions belong elsewhere please move to a new thread. Thanks, Ruby

I'd say this is a fine place for those questions, since it is still in essence along the same lines as the original.

The difference between cheating and consent is knowledge. If a dominant has more than one submissive, even online, and isn't telling each of them about the others, then he's cheating.

He is keeping a stable, but he's also being unfaithful to all of him through his dishonesty.

[Jadetiger]

I'd say this is a fine place for those questions, since it is still in essence along the same lines as the original.

The difference between cheating and consent is knowledge. If a dominant has more than one submissive, even online, and isn't telling each of them about the others, then he's cheating.

He is keeping a stable, but he's also being unfaithful to all of him through his dishonesty.

Ruby always asked the hard questions. I never really gave the subject much thought. I just assume my master had other subs. He has never really talked about anyone specific but he had brought up how others have reacted to some of his tasks. On the other hand as a Domme I have one sub who is my pet. I interact with several others but do not give then near as much attention as I do my pet. He is aware that I do alot of roleplay but I never really asked him how he felt about it.

TG,
You have given me something to think about. I guess in the broad sense of the word I have stable. My pet probaly has a better idea of my activies than I do of my masters. I guess I need to find out how he feels about it. Then decide if I am going to be noisy and ask my master if he has other as well.

[Finding_Fantasy]

I have no problem, personally, with poly relationships. Because TG persues other relationships with other submissives I do not consider it cheating. Why? Because we discuss with each other first of it would be a good thing to both of us for him to continue with it. Normally, it has to be with someone that I can get along with.

Stables, as a whole, I am not sure I agree with because it just seems so impersonal. Kind of like a harem. Just something about it that leaves something to be desired.

[Ruby]

I asked:

What about the doms who are poly online, but lead each and every one of their subs to believe that she is the only one?

Do we say he's keeping a stable? Being unfaithful if the others don't know?

TG: Thanks. I think you summed up what I was feeling when I asked this question.

Jadetiger: I'm so glad your pet and master know what you've been up to. Though you don't try to hide anything. You've got enough threads going that we can all learn for your great experiences.

FF: Valuable insight here, thank you.

Alura: Remind me not to mess with you, ever!
While revenge is a dish best served cold, I'd rather not have to serve it for dinner.

Anyone else care to take a stab at these tough questions?

[learningtopleez]

I'd say this is a fine place for those questions, since it is still in essence along the same lines as the original.

The difference between cheating and consent is knowledge. If a dominant has more than one submissive, even online, and isn't telling each of them about the others, then he's cheating.

He is keeping a stable, but he's also being unfaithful to all of him through his dishonesty.

I agree 100% with you TG...it is amazing to me that people still think they can get away with it, especially on a site such as this. We have a lot of newcomers to the forums, but some of you (and me too) have been around here awhile...long enough to make good friends and maybe even play a little. I think that all those newcomers who are here to flirt only should say so. It's not a bad thing to flirt with several different people. It is wrong though to make each one of them think they are the only one that you would talk to like this. Or to tell one of them that you have formally chosen them as your own, then go and send "pussy meltdown" PM's to other forum members. And yes I'm once again speaking from experience! For all I know he sent the same PM to each of us...so beware all! And could someone please help me to stop being so fucking naive?? Oh well...live and learn, huh?

~ltp~

[alura]

Ruby and TG (especially TG). I so do agree with you on this one. That has always been my number one no-no. Do *NOT* lie to me, baby, or you *will* be found out in the most unexpected ways.

I don't care what they look like, seriously; they could be five feet tall, chubby or skinny, whatever.....because looks never meant much to me. But they had BETTER be honest.

I just have to tell this story...,getting on a bandwagon here. My ex-husband was sleeping with my best friend the whole last year I was there and lying about it. But I am very very smart,intuiative, and when required, patient as well. I figured the whole thing out about 2 months in to that last year, followed them around, took pictures, got eyewitness accounts which I had sent to me certified receipt mail requested and also a PI, who was a friend of mine, who took depositions with said witnesses. And he also took some pretty racy pictures during those last 7 months or so.

The whole entire time, I acted so innocent and unknowing, continuing to be her best friend and the love of his love (oh, yes, I am a VERY good actress when I have to be) but I was gathering evidence by the handsfuls. A month before I left....? Well.....

In the end I did nothing with it as far as court revenge. Rather, anonymously, I sent it to her husband's ex wife (who did take it to court and use it to raise the child support...just as I had known she would) so that my cheating ex best friend and her husband would have to pay 1,000 dollars a month instead of 500. I felt no remorse, because one of my sources (verified by PI friend) was a friend of my girfriend's husband, who told him one day that they had an open marriage, she was sleeping with her best friend's husband, and had sworn him to secrecy, and he was fine with that since she was being honest with HIM. I figured he deserved a little taste of the lash as well.

I sent it to my ex's boss because I knew that he was due for a raise (and he didn't get it; in fact, he got slightly demoted and told by his boss in private that though it would never be known by anyone what he had done, his boss had lost all respect and trust for him and it would be a cold day in hell before he ever recommended him for a raise....just as I had known his boss would do) and then, I left it alone. I didn't send it to anyone else. I didn't want to hurt anyone except the two who had lied to and betrayed me. To this day, neither one of them knows what happened, who sent what and what was actually IN the information that I sent. Just as I intended.

When warranted and deserved, I do believe in the saying "Revenge is a Dish best served Cold". And it is a sweet dish indeed, as long as you have the patience, and creativity, to spice it perfectly......

Not sure if I should start a new thread for this question:

What about the doms who are poly online, but lead each and every one of their subs to believe that she is the only one?

Do we say he's keeping a stable? Being unfaithful if the others don't know?

Nightstriker/Moderator - if these questions belong elsewhere please move to a new thread. Thanks, Ruby

[BDSM_Tourguide]

Ruby and TG (especially TG). I so do agree with you on this one. That has always been my number one no-no. Do *NOT* lie to me, baby, or you *will* be found out in the most unexpected ways.

I can appreciate that. And your tale sounds exactly like something I would do.

[alura]

WOW, TG! A man after my own heart.

My hat, liking and great respect (because you have won it by showing how much you incorporate truth and honesty into your life) goes out to you.

After the words that you have so strongly spoken, from now on, I consider you one of the few friends that I feel I can genuinely trust and respect an opinion from. And I don't trust very many people, so consider that to be a compliment. Just ask Ruby; she'll tell you how prickly I tend to be when it comes to trust.

I can appreciate that. And your tale sounds exactly like something I would do.