I can only speak for myself but pushing is something i did a lot of ~especially in the beginning. I needed to know my boundaries _and_ have them enforced. I needed to know He was stronger than me.
Sometimes i still push. Especially when i cannot identify my feelings. Just the other day after a spanking ( i need spankings as they keep me centered somehow)..anyhow He asking me to tell Him how i felt and i couldnt. Instead i reached out and pinched His nipple hard. Of course, then i got the belt. And that is just what i needed - to break down and cry and _feel_.
But thats me. I've looked after everyone else all my life, this is the first relationship where i've been able to be safe.
Hope that makes sense
kist