Bringing out your dominant/submissive personality in real life

[Microwave0ven]

getting a bit off-topic here, eh?...

I would guess that Mrlover is joking around here... hoping, anyway



to answer the original question:
my dom personality shows most strongly when someone gets me riled up, threatens people i care about, or challenges me in such a way that i want to take charge and just crush the opposition.. (in a manner of speaking :P)

sub personality shows only when the right people are around, usually with people I have known for some time, and trust.

and overall, i'm just an easygoing person... I'm a student.. living at home. so I don't usually have to make many decisions. where I work, I'm just your average fast-food server. Most of my life seems to be a rather sub-type of life, nothing that I really have to control.

[Kaori-san]

I'm more submissive in the bedroom than in real life. I'm quite dominant at university really. I'm the type of person who will argue till the end of time over something and I have a quick temper at times....
So to most I must not look at all submissive. Though if people got to know me I'm sure some would notice that I tend not to be the one who will always get another to make decision. I guess ever since a little kid I fell for the men in movies who were the tougher, dominant ones.. so really... i guess if people wanted too they'd know i was a sub.
But I guess to a lot I could seem like a Dom

[her_Joe]

My dominance is not something i do or choose not to do. It has been a part of my personality for as long as I can recall, and it is what I am. Since I found a name for it several years ago, I no longer even try to hide it -- it is the way I relate to everyone.

By that I certainly don't mean that I swagger or carry a flogger or a challenge with me. I am quiet in person; I listen a lot. My former university students, and my own children, used to say I spoke with my eyes. I'm sure my pita will find her training direction more in my eyes than in my words.

I am soft spoken and when I have something to say, some people make a point of listening. I'm flattered by being taken seriously, of course, and have never taken it upon myself to find out if such people share my interests in BDSM. In RL the majority of people we all see rush and babble and never meet your eyes long enough to know anything is happening inside; such folk aren't of much interest; you need a sense of humor and of your own unimportance to know it is best to just stand aside and let most people rush past.

her_Joe