not a personal ad, just a few suggestions

[Sir_Russell]

there is really no one way and I guess if I was new to it all I probably would be reading everything and getting both good and bad advise and being very confused.

I used to run a large chat room on the life so I guess I just got of all the nonsense and petty politics finally got me out of ever going there. No problem with those that do but just not for me anymore.

Still if your new it is a good enough way to start just be careful who you trust

[Alex Bragi]

Yes, I've noticed a number of posts in the personal sub forum that are one time/only time posters and I have wondered how successful they are, and more particularly when the posts only consist of two or three lines. I mean--hello?--this isn't your local newspaper where you're paying for the advertisement by the line, you can tell us as much as you want and we won't charge you any extra.

I suppose these advertisement from non-chatter/ non-posters work if the person is articulate and able to express themselves well but I still tend to agree it's much nicer and easier to get to know the person in a less committed and confronting way.

And, I have another suggestion. I've noticed these personal ads will often read like a wish list of wants and needs, rather than an enticement to a prospective partner. I think that maybe a bit of turn off for some people.

[Tojo]

Yep, I totally agree with that approach Midnite- it's so easy to say whatever you like in a personal ad, but once someone has posted a few times it's not so easy to put on an act.

So many people come to sites of all kinds for the express purpose of finding some new talent for a bit of fun, it's hard to separate the wheat from the chaff.