help with making rules

[deigja]

Just another idea... what about a private ritual... I have one I usually perform before going to bed, some kind of meditative thing.... for me it´s just kneeling in a corner thinking about what the day has brought me new in the D/s context, thinking through the relationship with him, deciding what i did and did not like... I´ts really good for getting settled in a relationship and he asks me from time to time what I found out during my little ritual.
For example.. I hated giving blowjobs in the beginning, I was all uncomfortable with it, but he insisted on trying until I could do it without gagging to much, and long before I felt comfortable doing it, I realized that I started liking it for the control it gave him over me... Without the ritual I would never have realized this and it was really hard to admit this to myself...

[Tojo]

My first & foremost rule is that lisa looks after herself, & keeps safe. I like her to be neat & tidy always & to be feminine.

Communication is probably the second most important- I need to know how she feels & any problems she has with me or her personal life.

Rituals are good too- it's nice to have one's girl or girls do a special thing for you each day, wearing something, or whatever.