Why is it cool to be a bi girl

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After various conversations over the last few days with friends of mine, Ive been pondering the following.

Why do bi girls (the majority) flaunt it like it's cool, as if it makes them more special.
A girl I know is very proud from having slept with what she claims to be most of the girls she knows in the scene in her hometown.
If I were to knock that on its head and be proud of sleeping with all the males in my hometown... not so cool but slutty.

Also, why do so many girls in the scene claim to be bi, I understand that scene folk are more open minded and open to more experiences but I have yet to meet a female submissive that is not bisexual, I find this hard to believe.
(there is also not the same amount of male bi sexuals in the scene either.)

To the lazywebs I ask... why is it so cool to be bisexual?

It's cool because we get to sleep with hot, sexy men AND hot, sexy women. The same reason why it's cool to be a switch -- and I should know, being both.

Seriously -- yeah, there are a lot of young women who want to be bi because it seems rebellious or gets guys' attention. Personally, I don't know if I "flaunt" my sexuality any more than most hetero people I know do -- I love both my husband and my girlfriend (we're poly; I'm not cheating), and I don't have any desire to hide my feelings for either of them. I do want people to know that I'm bi, mostly because how will I find partners if people don't know what I like?

As for being "slutty," frankly I'm proud of all the men *and* women I've been with. The people I've played with have all been special and interesting in their own ways, and I wouldn't do something if I wasn't going to own it and be proud of it. I don't see anything to be ashamed of.

One thing I don't understand, though: why do people think it's sexier for a submissive woman with a dominant male partner to be bi, when obviously it would be subbie-er and kinkier for her to not be bi, but be willing to do it anyway for the excitement of her Dom?

The more interesting question to me right now is that of why, given the fashionable status of female bisexuality, is it not cool for men to be bi? Taking myself for example. I consider myself pan-sexual or gender-blind in my approach to my sexuality; attracted to people regardless of their sex or if their gender matches up to it, but the functional result could be said to be bisexuality- in simplistic terms.

In general it is definitely harder for bi guys. I think a big part of it is that during the height of AIDS hysteria, a lot of media sources made it seem like the easiest way for a woman to get HIV was to sleep with a man who was also sleeping with me. Also, the gay male subculture can be kind of exclusive at times and isn't really accepting of bi men, which my bi male friends tell me makes it hard to find partners.

Personally, though, I love bi guys. I think they're pretty much the hottest, probably for the same reasons that a lot of straight men think bi women are.

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Oh and also -- for what it's worth, I'm also really bothered by the whole kinky status game. Mostly because, despite being all bi and stuff, I'm really pretty rubbish as a submissive (I generally prefer the term "challenging"). Even if your kink is about being property and being shown off, there are ways to do that that don't put down other people's relationships and preferences.