Everyone makes mistakes...but not a Dom...?

[dillinja]

to keep the D/s relationship true, tell him it is hard to follow the directions he has set for you when he himself does not abide by them. Tell him it give you the feeling of "why should I when he doesnt"
Of course the counter arguement is the do as i say, not as i do deal...but that is between you and him.

p.s. i never make mistakes im perfect! lol

[IAmCanadian]

Some double-standards are really asinine, but I don't find any inconsistancy in the cursing example. Since time immemorial, men have held themselves to a different standard than women when it comes to using foul language. I think some subs might find it comfortable to be held to a standard of cleaner language and greater purity.

Heck, you can make a case that master/slave relationships are BUILT on designing divergent standards of behaviour- at least in terms of consequences for infractions. Some of these standards make sense because of kink or comfort or historical context, and some don't and are just a sign of weakness and hypocrisy on the part of the dom.

(And just as a side note, having nothing to do with bambina's actual objection and having strictly to do with play, I sorta like the idea of using an inconsistancy in behaviour to make a sub feel like dirt. There's something sadistic about coming home late and saying to her "Yeah, I'm late. What the fuck are you going to do about it? That's right, nothing. Go get my fucking dinner ready." I wouldn't advise this unless she's turned on by sadism and verbal abuse, guys- or you might get a frying pan across the face.)

- FS