Why do many BDSM people look down on switches?

[SauvagePouline]

but if its a club then you're CONFORMING to something... lol

I mean that in all teasing btw, i enjoy refusing to conform as well :-D

All joking aside,

I've been following this thread, and am surprised to see that SO many switches have had poor experiences with Doms and/or subs. I've had the gays-judging-bis experiences. Especially as a female college student bisexual (in my area) since the stereotype is you're just doing it to be cool/sexy etc. Lots of comments like "Is no one straight anymore???"

But I thought switching made lots of sense. There isn't a so-called "natural" orientation for that, and I can totally understand feeling differently about different people. After all, sub's don't feel subby for every person they meet. It reminds me of that K something scale for sexuality, where almost no one is 0,5 or 10 (completely straight, bi or gay). It seems logical that D/s would be the same way?

This is interesting food for thought, and also very sad.

[Pearlgem]

But I thought switching made lots of sense. There isn't a so-called "natural" orientation for that, and I can totally understand feeling differently about different people. After all, sub's don't feel subby for every person they meet.

Hmm, I'm not a switch; I've identified myself as sub and am comfortable with that, but your remark here, sp, really made me think. Most, if not all, of the subs on here would probably agree with it. I certainly can. I have my usual, everyday behaviour, and then my sub yearnings for one man and one man only. So at least I travel along the spectrum of 'normal' to sub.
I have been following the 'what the hell is switching all about and why do they hate us' threads with interest, trying to understand what at first seems quite alien to me. But perhaps it's just that I haven't allowed myself to see my own (theoretical) possibilities.

To the switches out there, is sp's a useful example to help understand the switching mindset?

[voxelectronica]

but if its a club then you're CONFORMING to something... lol

I mean that in all teasing btw, i enjoy refusing to conform as well :-D

I hate it! I hate being different. I wish i could be like everyone else even if it was pretending. I can't even do that right. I wish i was straight or gay. I wish i was Dom or sub. I wish i was one or the other. Some days I even wish i was a democrat so people wouldn't hate me on site.