keep your mind to yourself!

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so to speak.

in my mind always is the fact that she came fairly recently from the sort of relationship where the guy was 'dominant', but it wasn't sane or consensual.

If it wasn't sane and particularly if it wasn't consensual, it was NOT a D/s relationship. It was abuse, plain and simple. And possibly criminal.

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If it wasn't sane and particularly if it wasn't consensual, it was NOT a D/s relationship. It was abuse, plain and simple. And possibly criminal.

*sigh* i know. to have someone so under thumb that they lose their sense of self, somewhat...

it wasn't D/s, we know that, i just want to know if anyone else has thought about how it can contain similar elements, just in a context of trust and love. and whether anyone else has found that codependency was ever a problem as they begin practising elements of D/s in everyday life.

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*sigh* i know. to have someone so under thumb that they lose their sense of self, somewhat...

it wasn't D/s, we know that, i just want to know if anyone else has thought about how it can contain similar elements, just in a context of trust and love. and whether anyone else has found that codependency was ever a problem as they begin practising elements of D/s in everyday life.

I think it is simply a matter of helping to rebuild her trust. Start slowly, and give her lots of latitude.