I'm just starting out, myself, but have always been interested in subbing, particularly restraint. I remember always trying to talk the neighborhood kids into tying me up with a jump rope during games of Cops & Robbers. (Okay, it was the mid-80's. We were playing Knight Rider.)

I've only brought the subject up twice in vanilla relationships, with unsatisfactory results. One guy was just convinced that my proclivities were a result of abuse, although I am quite certain they aren't, and the relationship ended over the disagreement. (I was mostly hurt that he wouldn't take my word for it.) The other was willing to play along, but just couldn't take it seriously and kept alternately giggling and asking if he was hurting me/apologizing. It just wasn't his thing.

I've actually been celibate for about 3 years, and wandered in here one night when I couldn't sleep. Although I'd been reading bondage stories online since I had access to the Internet (I remember House of Abductor, too, Traveller, although I never commented or anything), I can't believe it took me 15 years to attempt to connect with other like-minded people online.