Online you or offline you?

[gracieflower]

I also recognize that a familiarity with people in a group leads to behavior such as what gracie described and I can certainly see her point. I personally do not take offense at anything I've seen her do. We each have our own "lines" that we don't want crossed but so far no one has come close to that with me. Maybe I view things enough differently that I'm in the minority as far as my behavior online. I have pretty much always held to the concept of being me, and doing the things online that I would do in person. My expectations of behavior online are reserved for me and the girl who does or will serve me.

I did not mean for my post to be construed as taking direct criticism for what Desperado posted. It is merely a reflection on my own behavior. I act very similarly o/l or r/l, and believe that my actions vary depending on the person or group i am with. If i am unfamiliar with someone, i will make every effort to be respectful upon meeting them. But those i know and feel comfortable with, i will be more open and free with how i express myself. Bottom line is i am also a people pleaser and would hope to not be a disappointment to myself or my One with my actions. I trust most of the people here and r/l to call me on it if i am stepping out of line, because in general it is not in my character to act that way.

All of that said, i believe it doesn't matter where you are. Be yourself in whatever way makes you comfortable, but be cognizant that there are always eyes watching whether you realize it or not ... and often, judgement on character or personality are made during that time.

Hugs to A/all who want them from this gracie girl.

[jules]

Just to add my thoughts again (wow.. two on one thread!) , i think this is a great thread Deperado...
It gives us all a chance to consider our own behaviour and that of others.. and i do not mean that in a negative way.. simply in a thoughtful way.
It also gives us chance to see other people's opinions. I would also add, the people adding to this thread are all people who i consider genuine and my friends and in my opinion all behave genuinely online.

Alex and Vic, I don't think it is at all unusual for those who have a shy side find it easier to come out of that shell online and i truly believe it helps in real life too... i am certainly not the shy person (with regards to lifestyle topics) i was 18 months ago now, although that pesky shyness does makes its appearance with annoying regularity in real life situations still - but at least it makes Sir smile.

[alwayscurious]

I would like to think that those who you know o/l would act the same in r/l if you were to meet. I have mostly r/l experience so I act the same in both worlds. I have had the opportunity to meet more than a few friends right from this site as a matter of fact. I found that they have all acted the same in r/l as the do o/l.

I would not allow anyone to grope me without my permission o/l or in r/l. I think for some people playing o/l is just an outlet and a place they can be anyone they want to be.


XO,
AC