Feedback from new subs?

[Tojo]

To my mind giving control to someone is certainly the ultimate power. I don't see anything odd about the sub being ultimately in control, especially in the early stages of a relationship. After all you'll be the one hurt/upset/scared or whatever if things go wrong.

One of the reasons it worked so well with katie was the way she let me know how she was, what was OK & what wasn't.

How else was I supposed to know?

Thanks for that Maddie, good to hear how it's going from a few subs- I just might learn something....

Dare I say we all might??

Tojo

[Warbaby1943]

Tojo,

Thanks for the link although it was mostly for females. I do have to take exception to one quote and maybe I should have done so in that post but I think it is apropos here also.

Quote: "I'm Married, my wife can't know about us"
If I have to explain this one too you, you've got problems. I have played
with many married submissives in my time, but ONLY with the express permission (and more often than not, participation) of their husbands. Safe D/s requires complete honesty.

You can't build a good Scene on lies. There are plenty of people that will
be willing to tell you differently; but please note, they will all turn out to be
adulterers (and hence, liars) themselves." End quote.

What I disagree with is that I am not an adulterer and have gone to great lengths to assure that I remain that way. I am a liar by omission due to the fact that I can't and won't tell my wife but I am up front with whomever I talk to about this BDSM stuff. If known up front then the scene, I believe, is not being built on lies, at least not to the participants. See it is probably best I stick with paid professionals. That way there is no long term commitment to think about.

I wasn't going to post in this thread because I have told my story in other parts of this forum. After following your link, I felt I had to chime in. If inappropriate please accept my apologies.

[Tojo]

Yeah geez did you read the whole thread Warbaby? I just had a bit of a look to be honest.

Tojo

[Warbaby1943]

Yeah geez did you read the whole thread Warbaby? I just had a bit of a look to be honest.

Tojo

Tojo,

Yeah I read the entire thread. Even followed the links it offered. I can't dispute most of what was said but, as stated earlier, I do not consider myself an adulterer for having visited a professional. I wonder how others feel about that statement. Maybe I'll start another thread with a question along those lines.

[vampyres{ID}]

I am a new Sub (Well not really new but far from knowing everything, or even much)

I am not afraid of being Judged, never have been.

I have found the perfect husband who is trying to be the perfect master for me, What I expect of him is to push my limits, and rule my life, I expect to be diciplined as a reminder of what will happen should I missbehave. (I have no longing to be disobedient but I do so enjoy the punishment) I am far from Shy I love to be openly humiliated. Very much a turn on to be a half naked (Or completely naked) foot stool while there is company around, I have no qualms about being put on display or put out for use by others. Basically I want a master who will use me as he sees fit.

[frankee]

As a new sub, things are going great for me. That's not to say that there hasn't been a few hiccups along the way. For instance, one time W/we we're online chatting and my Domme asked me a question and i replied in a manner that was not pleasing to Her. She corrected me of course but when i hesitated to answer correctly again, She refused to speak to me and left Her computer for what seemd to me to be an eternity. At first, i sat there thinking, 'what just happened?' , then it dawned on me, i was being taught a lesson. i hate the silent treatment more than anything else (which i never told Her), but She knows me well enough, to know that would get my attention and give me a firm kick in the ass. lol
At times i know that i frustrate the hell out of Her and She does have Her hands full with me. i am very stubborn but She takes it all in stride and knows how to handle me. (but secretly i think She likes my fiestiness lol).
So, i am very grateful for Mistress' patience.
This Forum has been great and look forward to learning from all the experienced ones.
frankee

Proud sub of Mistress Cindy

[Warbaby1943]

frankee, I think you'll really like it here. It is a great place for like-minded people.

[wkcbitch]

It would be nice to hear back from a few more subs new to the lifestyle.

How it's going? What's good or bad? Are we supportive enough & not too overbearing?

I often wonder what happens to the ones we answer questions from & wonder if they're OK.

Have you found that perfect Dom/me?

I for one really appreciate the thanks I get- you guys are all special. Remember without subs, being a Dom would be pretty damn pointless....


Tojo

First of all thank you for the inquary! I have only been a sub for a whild now and acutally have a hard time with submission. And I get in my punishment for it. You see though, I like getting the punishment and sometimes push buttons to get it. But then my master gets upset because I am trying his patients. I like to submit too but at times i feel alittle frisky!

No one has ever been too pushy or rude. I greatly like this place.....I feel comfortable here. And I agree if it weren't for subs...doms would have a lot of pent up aggression. LOL, which i adore!

[submissivewife]

. You see though, I like getting the punishment and sometimes push buttons to get it. I like to submit too but at times i feel alittle frisky!

I've see this on a few occasions....actually left her house on a few occasions because I knew she was in for it......*giggles* (should see the smile on her face later )

[wkcbitch]

I've see this on a few occasions....actually left her house on a few occasions because I knew she was in for it......*giggles* (should see the smile on her face later )

Master likes it too!! The smiles later that is. LOL!

[submissivewife]

Master likes it too!! The smiles later that is. LOL!

I bet he does!

[wkcbitch]

I bet he does!

LOL!

[bedlam_racin01]

i am a sub as well as new to the scene, i have done some bondage and punishment an sub mistress with a friend who has since moved away and have lost contact with her, i just found this site today and hop ei can be more active in the scen ethan i am now.


My name is cole and pm me anytime

cole

[submissivewife]

Welcome Cole (I just love that name). If you are seeking a Mistress post a personal...i'm sure you'll find some to interest you.

[wkcbitch]

Welcome Cole (I just love that name). If you are seeking a Mistress post a personal...i'm sure you'll find some to interest you.

I want one too!

[submissivewife]

I want one too!

*giggles* if that is so sister dear, POST IT IN THE PERSONALS! But I think you are just being ornery!

[wkcbitch]

*giggles* if that is so sister dear, POST IT IN THE PERSONALS! But I think you are just being ornery!

It is a consideration though!! A pleasant thought...maybe I will be someones mistress someday.?

[Tojo]

Yeah well just look at subwife's avatar wkcbitch- you just never know what kind of evil persona you may end up with here.

Just remember to ask Master first....

Tojo

[Silke]

Hiya Cole and to the forums.

[wkcbitch]

Welcome Cole! I am new too. I enjoy it here. EVERONE has been so pleasant and nice. Enjoy your stay here! (by the way my name is Kari)

[dzire2pleeze]

I have yet to formally introduce myself, but - for over a month now - i have taken advantage of and enjoyed the information in the forums. Those that i have spoken to, mostly on technical issues, have graciously assisted me. Not once was i made to feel like the computer illiterate i am.
Having had only one dominant, i am relatively new at this. Nevertheless, I believe that i came to this life with a submissive spirit that lay dormant until my former dominant reached into the depths of my soul and defined me. For that I am grateful.
I am also appreciative of the dominant, who, in passing, referred me to this site. I have entertained myself with the stories and had great conversations with some (notice the word some) of the people in the chat room. Actually, most of the people. Not everyone can be perfect. ~smiling~ not even me.

Anyway, i suppose this is a formal introduction (albeit in the wrong place), but I wanted to let others know that I am here and now you are stuck with me. I will not disappear. The end.

dzire.

[wkcbitch]

I have yet to formally introduce myself, but - for over a month now - i have taken advantage of and enjoyed the information in the forums. Those that i have spoken to, mostly on technical issues, have graciously assisted me. Not once was i made to feel like the computer illiterate i am.
Having had only one dominant, i am relatively new at this. Nevertheless, I believe that i came to this life with a submissive spirit that lay dormant until my former dominant reached into the depths of my soul and defined me. For that I am grateful.
I am also appreciative of the dominant, who, in passing, referred me to this site. I have entertained myself with the stories and had great conversations with some (notice the word some) of the people in the chat room. Actually, most of the people. Not everyone can be perfect. ~smiling~ not even me.

Anyway, i suppose this is a formal introduction (albeit in the wrong place), but I wanted to let others know that I am here and now you are stuck with me. I will not disappear. The end.

dzire.

Hello Dzire, I look forward to getting to know you. I to am new to this lifestyle...(sadly, I will mention we ended our relationship this morning) and feel I still have more to learn to. It is glad to meet you I hope you enjoy it here. Everyone is very pleasant. (just watch out for subwife )

[submissivewife]

Hello Dzire, I look forward to getting to know you. I to am new to this lifestyle...(sadly, I will mention we ended our relationship this morning) and feel I still have more to learn to. It is glad to meet you I hope you enjoy it here. Everyone is very pleasant. (just watch out for subwife )

that's not nice to say about your sister!

[wkcbitch]

that's not nice to say about your sister!

Just what ya going do about it? I have to get you over here somehow.

[submissivewife]

Just what ya going do about it? I have to get you over here somehow.

ok....we have now hijacked the thread....we'll have to take this somewhere else sissy dear.

[Warbaby1943]

...(sadly, I will mention we ended our relationship this morning) (just watch out for subwife )

Sorry to hear about that. Twins, now you know you must not bicker.

[wkcbitch]

Sorry to hear about that. Twins, now you know you must not bicker.

But I so love picking on her! *pouting*

[Warbaby1943]

But I so love picking on her! *pouting*

OK but isn't it like picking on yourself?

[submissivewife]

dzire2pleeze hope you enjoy....Thanks for your introduction. It's great when you have a mentor to help guide you along. For that I am eternally grateful to Sir for teaching me and being my friend. Enjoy!

[Warbaby1943]

dzire2pleeze hi and You'll enjoy it here. Glad to have you aboard.